The nights ends
And it’s a victory for Donald J. Trump.
Twenty years ago, this man graced our TV screens as the tough business guy with excessive pride. His catch phrase “you’re fired” caught on for how simple and rude it was. A man who cares only about the bottom line, about winning. He looks at the results he says that’s it — you’re fired.
As a kid when I watched this, it seemed almost like a joke. This guy was making people afraid of him. Why was he doing that? To exert power over them? To make them feel small? Or to make himself feel big? Why does he have to be so mean about it? It’s a sad thing for someone to get fired. That means they didn’t do a very good job, but you don’t want to let them down like that. You don’t want to make them feel so small.
The way to let someone go is with humanity and grace. “You brought in such an energy and enthusiasm to this, and it really made you stand out amongst all the others. We want you to be better off in an environment that you can thrive in”
That’s what my intuition was telling me was right. Be nice to them. Let them know it’s not their fault, because most people will not make mistakes if they are given the right directions. Most people are able to learn and do the right things in a short amount of time. They are willing and able to learn. They are good people.
Most people really can make a difference, and it’s their own self-beliefs that limit them. I take issue with people who impose self-beliefs on other people. The reason is because they do it for themselves to feel big, and for the other person to feel small. This happens with words and ideas alone; it really is simple enough to be that.
One can simply say “you’re bad” and the other person will feel small. One can say “you suck at this” or “you’re no good” or “you did a terrible job” and it really does stick with the person. They can try to pretend it doesn’t stick with them, but it does. That’s the reality of negative feedback. It reverberates as self-talk over time, because people feel the criticisms internally, and it especially resonates in the soul when those criticisms are true.
“You’re lazy. You’re useless.” This is how you bring out the laziness and uselessness in people. “You’re good. You’re loving.” This is how you bring out the positivity in people.
It’s important for that reason to continue to see and highlight the good in everyone. All positivities to be spoken about ones character should be spoken out lout, and the negativities should be spoken with reluctance and reserve. One need not pretend a thing is one way when it’s the other, but they should be careful and gentle in their criticisms. Else the man you treat like a dog becomes one.
Each man and woman and child will internalize their criticisms throughout their life, because these are essentially pieces of feedback exchanged from other living beings around them.
What some realize is that these things are changeable. When you receive feedback to be less angry, you can really become less angry. Or to be more thoughtful, you can really become more thoughtful. This is a mindset of growth.
But imagine a person who is receiving feedback the same way a running back receives tackles. When you constantly give a person feedback from all angles, over and over, and that is all they receive from their environment, well then they will naturally form to mold to the environment which you are giving them feedback to become.
Similar to how a rock tumbler slowly smooths out every ridge, crack, nook, and rough spot on a rock until eventually the jagged and cornered rock becomes a smooth and uniform stone. So does the feedback we give and receive to others shape and form their personality, crafting who they are, and shaping the trajectory for whom they'll become.
It is for this reason that it is important to spend time in environments with those whom the feedback you receive is thoughtful, loving, and caring. You want the people around you to want you to do well. Do not let them belittle you or your ambitions. Be around people who empower you and make you feel good about yourself and the future.
This was my qualm as an eight year old with this business man Trump. What I saw on the TV screen was a man who created fear, a man who created doubt in others. A man who was trying to shape and mold the people around him, not for their betterment, but for the fear himself specifically.
Sure, you can talk about the work on celebrity appreciate, but it really was less about the work. It was more about “I am big, and you are small.” And that was what I didn’t like about him.
“You’re fired.” He says with a smug and confident look.
And why's that? So you can feel tall?